Free · For Women Rebuilding After Divorce
"I was curled up on my bed when I realized I did not know who I was without the title of wife." Ten questions about who you are now, plus one that isn’t scored. Three minutes. Nothing is sent anywhere.
Charisse was married fifteen years. Everyone thought her ex was wonderful and couldn't understand why she left. Her own grandmother took his side, and apologized about five years later. She knows what it is to be the woman nobody believed.
This check isn't a verdict on your marriage or your divorce. It looks at where you are now, names what's still sitting under your waterline, and tells you what to do about each piece. Answer the way things actually are, not the way you'd say them out loud to someone who asks how you're holding up.
Your answers stay in this browser. Nothing is sent to Charisse, saved, or shared. Close the tab and it's gone.
This is a self-reflection tool built from the Iceberg Framework. It is not a clinical or predictive test, and it is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. Charisse Walker is not a licensed therapist.
Where This Goes Next
Charisse's goal, in her own words: get people healed so they can make healthy decisions, and then get to know the person they want to marry. In that order, because doing it out of order is how the same marriage arrives wearing a different face.
Discover and flip your own icebergs. What's under the water that you've been calling personality.
The beliefs, the expectations, the perspective. One finger points out and three point back.
"I love myself. I am worthy. I deserve it." Whichever one catches in your throat is the work.
Fair Questions
Yes. Everything happens in your browser. Nothing is sent to Charisse, stored on a server, or attached to your email. There's no email field at all.
Because Charisse wrote it from where she stood, and the specifics here — the title of wife, the people who took his side, the years you're told you wasted — are the ones she lived. Men are genuinely welcome in the book and the workshop. This particular check just doesn't pretend to speak for an experience it wasn't built from.
The kitchen conversation that started this whole framework happened about eight years after Charisse's divorce. Some of this doesn't surface until long after the paperwork is done.
Then it found something, which is the point. A low score isn't a judgment on you. It means there's more sitting under the water than you've had a chance to look at, usually because you've been busy surviving.
Yes. The Iceberg Check is for singles, people dating, and engaged couples, and the Marriage Meter is for married couples.
